A few months ago I wrote this post about learning to let go of expectation, especially when it came to my creativity and career. I wanted to let go of the idea that I had to be making from my writing or other creative pursuits in order for it to be worth something. It didn’t mean I was giving up on my dreams it just meant that I wanted to get back to doing things I enjoy just for the pure love of it. And I’ve been doing just that. I’ve been writing a lot. I’ve been reading and visiting new places and meeting new people and it’s been so great. And isn’t it funny that when you put yourself out there and learn to let go of expectation that’s exactly the time when opportunity comes knocking. And it has, quite a few times recently. In fact I had one crazy day the other week where I had four different creative job opportunities offered to me…yes all in one day. Some were just little opportunities, one quite big. Each of them was exciting and appealing in their own way. But of course I couldn’t say yes to them all could I? And that’s where learning to say no comes in.
Saying no has never come easily to me. I’m a people pleaser and often suffer from the dreaded FOMO. Too many times I’ve found myself in the position where I’ve said yes to something that I really didn’t want to do. So for each and every opportunity that has presented itself to me recently I have forced myself to stop and really think about it. I’ve asked myself is this something that I really want to do? Is this going to help me achieve my dreams? It’s so very easy to be lead astray by the lure of money but I just remind myself that money can’t buy happiness. It’s so easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new job but I just remind myself what my priorities are. So, I’ve learnt to say no and by saying no it has left me with the space and the time to be able to say yes to the things that I really want to do and that is an awesome position to be in!
It’s as simple as this; you need to know what you want out of life so that when opportunity comes knocking you’ll know if the opportunity is the right one for you.
Have you had any great opportunities presented to you lately? Do you find it a struggle to say no?